Commonplace

Quotes, excerpts, and notes from my reading

The Pain of Remembering After a Loss

In The Road, Cormac McCarthy wrote, “Maybe he understood for the first time that to the boy he was himself an alien. A being from a planet that no longer existed. The tales of which were suspect. He could not construct for the child’s pleasure the world he’d lost without constructing the loss as well and he thought perhaps the child has known this better than he…”

Parents, Your Tone Matters

Bessel Van der Kolk said, “One thing is certain: Yelling at someone who is already out of control can only lead to further dysregulation…”

Living in the Present

Blaise Pascal mused on our inability to live in and enjoy the present: “We do not rest satisfied with the present. We anticipate the future as too slow in coming, as if in order to hasten its course; or we recall the past, to stop its too rapid flight…”

Disordered Emotions and a Tiered Psychology

Matthew LaPine said, “The problem with not distinguishing higher from lower appetite is that a person must identify deviant emotion as volitional, and therefore subject to the same sort of moral censure as a deliberate, external act…”

Burying the “Unclaimed Dead”

"Martirosyan and her colleagues spend three years investigating a case before relinquishing the deceased to a communal gravesite, a last resort in the county cemetery."

The Unsharability of Pain

Elaine Scarry said, “Whatever pain achieves, it achieves in part through its unsharability, and it ensures this unsharablity through its resistance to language.”

How to Pray the Psalms

In God’s Prayer Book: The Power and Pleasure of Praying the Psalms, Ben Patterson offers five suggestions for praying the Psalms.

Worship is Dialogical

John Stott said, “in every well-constructed worship service the pendulum should swing rhythmically between God addressing his people through Scripture and his people responding to him in confession, faith, adoration, or prayer.”

Pain is an Ocean

Ayelet Gundar-Goshen said, “Pain is an ocean with no sign of land. You look around in every direction and find nothing but more pain, as far as the eye can see.”

False Patriotism

Esau McCaulley said, “Our national tendency to see only the best of America was standing in the way of truly becoming great. [Frederick Douglass] thought enough of this country to tell it the truth. We would be better off if more of us did the same.”

Grief Testifies

Nicolas Wolterstorff said, “Grief is existential testimony to the worth of the one loved.”